If you have ever had a manager that said things like, “Yeah, well if you think THAT’S bad, wait till…” or, “I remember a time when something similar happened to ME! Listen to this story…” you know what it means to be subject to management discouragement. I just wanted to drop a quick bit of encouragement to all of you who feel put down, undermined, discouraged or even downright frustrated in your position of subordination.
It won’t last. It’s ok. This is not your forever.
One of two things will happen. 1) You will get sick of it and quit or begin lashing out and underperforming leading to your dismissal. 2) You will realize that your manager is insecure and his or her actions will become so small in your mind, a mind focused on the big picture, that you’ll grow past that person. Both outcomes rely HEAVILY on your response. Don’t be that guy that everybody hates to be around because you are constantly whining about your boss.
Be positive. Be the one that is casting vision. Serve your co-workers.
It will pay off. You may still be working under that person a year from now, but you will be happier and more fulfilled as an individual and therefore more valuable to your organization.
The best way to handle a discouraging manager is to manage your own discouragement with grace and peace. TMF